Author: a solo affair

Elizabeth Gilbert: The Coffee Can Revolution

Author Elizabeth Gilbert, best know for her blockbuster memoir, Eat, Pray, Love, is one of my all-time favourites. Sincere and always thought-provoking, Gilbert’s books, inspirational writings and talks (remember this awesome TEDTalk?) have a wealth of insight that seem to stir up an energetic sense of optimism within her readers and listeners  – including myself. After Eat, Pray, Love was published woman everywhere wanted Gilbert to explain just how realistic she thought it was for a woman with a life and real responsibilities to drop it all like a sack of soiled laundry so she can travel around the world on a quest to heal her broken heart. And for years Gilbert didn’t have a good enough answer. But she did gain some insight after hearing the story of a 28-year-old mother of 5 whose husband left for work one day and never returned. The post entitled, The Coffee Can Revolution, was shared by Gilbert to her Facebook followers over the weekend and it was just too good that I had to pass it along to all of you. enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! THE COFFEE CAN REVOLUTION Dear Ones – This is a story …

I’ve done a bunch of small things

I thought this recent Humans of New York post was just fantastic! Because isn’t life really about the small things? “What’s been your greatest accomplishment in life?” “Well, I haven’t done any big things, but I’ve done a bunch of small things. I grew my junior college speech club from four members to twenty two members, I got to see Yosemite in the snowfall, I got my first dog four years ago– he’s a beautiful beagle named Buddy. Let’s see… I built a house two miles from my job, I sang in a show tunes choir, and I just finished directing a stage version of Charlie Brown’s Christmas, but with drag queens.”

Hello 2015!

Happy New Year! It’s been awhile. Mind if I sneak back in here and start blogging again? A lot has happened in my little life during the last 6+ months. I been tinkering with some really cool projects, writing for some new companies and other beloved brands — but mostly I’ve just been jumping at the chance to try out new things. When it comes to work, I pretty much want to do it all. If you’re a follower, you know I’ve been blogging sporadically and then sometimes not at all. I’ve written blog post after blog post that I’ve sadly abandoned to my drafts in the final moments before hitting the post button. For the most part, I think I’ve been hesitant to blog because the topics I was once interested in no longer had the same weight that they previously did. And I’ve come to the realization that that too is OK. After all, blogs are places where we individually or collectively come to observe or express documentations of our experiences. And all of us, like blogs, are and should be forever evolving. …

The best quote (ever)

The other day I was reading Elephant Journal, one of my favourite online journals (do check it out), when I came across this article by Jennifer S. White who claimed that the following passage from The Book: On the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are was the best quote she ever heard. After reading it several times over, I’m going to agree that it’s up there with the best of them! Go on, give it a slow read: “As it is, we are merely bolting our lives—gulping down undigested experiences as fast as we can stuff them in—because awareness of our own existence is so superficial and so narrow that nothing seems to us more boring than simple being.  If I ask you what you did, saw, heard, smelled, touched and tasted yesterday, I am likely to get nothing more than the thin, sketchy outline of the few things that you noticed, and of those only what you thought worth remembering. Is it surprising that an existence so experienced seems so empty and bare that its hunger for an …

Undress Me by filmmaker Tatia Pilieva

Five months ago, Tatia Pilieva‘s First Kiss video had us all blushing when she asked us to examine the vulnerabilities that arise within the complexity of sex. Undress Me is Pilieva’s latest social experiment which asks 20 strangers to undress one another and then jump into bed. While her latest viral video definitely had me feeling uncomfortable and a tad giddy, it seemed (to me anyway) way less intimate and shocking then her first doc. What do you think? Spoiler alert: I totally laughed out loud when the man ripped open the woman’s trousers. He definitely destroyed that zipper! S.

Motherhood forgotten

A couple of months ago, Ken Heyman, an 83 year-old photographer, received a call from his former agent, Woodfin Camp. Camp informed Heyman that he had old photographs in a storage facility that was closing and he needed to retrieve them. Buried amongst dozens of old boxes were hundreds of prints that Heyman had shot throughout his career. In one box was a long-lost folder marked, “Mothers”. More than 50 years old, the photos documented the diversity and parallel of motherhood in over 60 countries. Many of the photographs were done for a book Heyman created with anthropologist Margaret Mead in 1965 entitled Family which was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize that same year. The resurfacing of these photographs have made quite an impression on the web in the last few months. Many of which are being viewed by the public for the very first time. Great story, eh? You can check out more of Heyman’s beautiful photos at Enjoy! S.

“Don’t worry so much…Life is fleeting”

We lost a great one yesterday! “Please, don’t worry so much. Because in the end, none of us have very long on this earth. Life is fleeting. And if you’re ever distressed, cast your eyes to the summer sky when the stars are strung across the velvety night. And when a shooting star streaks through the blackness, turning night into day… make a wish and think of me. Make your life spectacular. I know I did.” – Robin Williams, Jack 1996. PS: This is my favourite pic of Robin Williams. He had such a gentle and childlike spirit, didn’t he?!


I’ve been silent on the blogosphere lately. After working an intense job for 10 months and then spending the next six months recovering and working on my own projects, (Confession: I think I’m addicted to start-ups) I’ve taken full advantage of my flexible schedule and spent a lot of time in nature, relaxing and gettin’ my read on. I’ve been pondering big things like: how do I want to live my life and whom do I want in it? And the most pressing: why is being solo so necessary to my own personal growth? And how (seriously, how?!) does one find time to explore solitude when in a relationship? How have you been? Read anything great lately? Hit me up with a new blog, I’m in need of a refresher! S.

What I’m reading — The Fault in Our Stars

I recently finished The Fault in Our Stars by John Green. The book was OK at best. The writing was a little immature for my liking and although there is this youthful conversational overtone to the book, it all felt a little forced to me. A little empty. There was though some really good lines in the book! Bookmarked passages: I missed the future. Obviously I knew even before his recurrence that I’d never grow old with Augustus Waters. But thinking about Lidewij and her boyfriend, I felt robbed. I would probably never again see the ocean from thirty thousand feet above, so far up that you can’t make out the waves or any boats, so that the ocean is a great and endless monolith. I could imagine it. I could remember it. But I couldn’t see it again, and it occurred to me that the voracious ambition of humans is never sated by dreams coming true, because there is always the thought that everything might be done better and again. On the flight home, twenty …